December 6, 2011 15years…

There is something so exciting about new love. The anticipation, the unknown of how things will evolve, and the excitement of each glance, touch and word. But lately, I’ve been marveling at love that’s seen bumps in the road. Seen the good, the bad and the very ugly. Love that hasn’t always felt like warm fuzzies. Love that is a support, a joy, and a most welcome presence.

Today is our 15th wedding anniversary.

When I think back to life pre-Mark I can’t remember it – and I marvel that I was even able to function without him. I also laugh at the Krista of newlywed bliss… I had no idea how hard, messy, challenging, stretching, rewarding and life-changing marriage would be. It’s like parenting – people tell you daily when you’re pregnant “it goes by so fast” and “savour each moment”…. but I think the same could (and should!) be said of marriage. And I think that’s the advice I’d offer newlywed Krista – or any newlywed – today.

“It goes by so fast”… My book club just finished reading “The Happiness Project” and in it there was the reminder to live in the now. Sometimes we think we’ll be happy when…. we have kids, buy a house, finish school, pay off our mortgage, go on a vacation, have the kids move out…. and suddenly life has passed us by while we were waiting for it to get good. Instead, enjoy the journey – not just the destinations.

“Savour each moment”… very early in our marriage – I think we were married a month or two at most – Mark and I met at the bank on our lunch breaks to sign for our joint account. I had to hurry back to work so as soon as I was done, I waved goodbye to Mark and started to rush out. The bank teller called me back. I was sure I had forgotten a signature or something. “What do you think you’re doing? How long have you been married?” I had no clue what she was getting at. “Why didn’t you give your husband a kiss goodbye?” I blushed – I’m not one for being all affectionate in public places. “Every time you leave, you don’t know if you’ll ever see him again. You never know what could happen! Never leave without a kiss goodbye.” That simple reprimand has stayed with me. Savour each moment. Yesterday I was running out the door and said a quick goodbye and grabbed my keys… As I opened the door to leave I heard “Um… aren’t you forgetting something?” Thank bank teller had no idea she was helping us create a new habit that has taught us to savour each moment.

I am thankful daily for my Mark. He supports, understands, encourages, dreams, and challenges me. I have tried to write this post many times to put into words how thankful I am for him in my life. But I can’t. Sure, I’ve rambled here… but my heart full of gratitude for him can’t be expressed. So, I’ll simply leave it by saying it is an extreme honour to be Mark’s wife.

And…

If you’ve read the blog for awhile you may remember that back in February I blogged how I have no real photos of Mark and me together. Sad but true. But, I fall into the trap most women do… “once I lose weight” “When my hair grows a bit longer” and the excuses piled up. But, I needed to do this. So, I booked my dear friend Beth to come and do some photos of the two of us out at our house. I almost cancelled the session many times – but I knew that when my kids look back at these photos they won’t say “too bad mom didn’t wait until she lost a bit more weight” (or they better not say that!) but instead I hope they say “look at how mom and dad love each other.” So – thank you Beth for the gift of these images.

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(The quilt I made for Mark back when we were dating….)

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Celebrating life and love,

Krista

8 Responses to “15years…”

  1. Rob says:

    Quilt! Claire worked on a quilt when she went back to Australia and it’s now adorning my bed. Can’t wait for you two to meet!

  2. Leanne says:

    Beautiful words as always. I’m all teary here. You two are a beautiful example to your girls. I wish we could see you all more but you are in our thoughts often. Congratulations on 15 years together. Your photo shoot pic’s are awesome. One day I’ll get our schedules straight and book you for Kevin and I. Miss you guys!

  3. kath siebert says:

    these are so gorgeous. you can feel the love!

  4. Cherie says:

    I love you two. Beautiful post Krista. You always amaze me by how articulate you are and how intentional you are in everything that you do. The way you love your friends, your kids and your hubby. May you have many more happy years together! Love you guys! Great pics too you gorgeous people you! Thanks for sharing! You brought a tear to my eye too (and I totally remember you telling me about the banker. I too remember that when I leave my hubby even to do an errand. Too bad that banker doesn’t know the difference she’s made in the lives of many with a few simple words. Love ya!

  5. Happy Anniversary dear friend! Your photos are as gorgeous as you are! Hugs!

  6. Rosita says:

    Happy Anniversary my friend! Wishing you countless more! xo

  7. Stephanie C says:

    Yay! Congrats on 15 years!

    I am so excited to be at 2 months (almost)!

    Love the pics.

  8. Christa says:

    What a lovely post – and so fitting for a lovely couple. Your words and your emotions are inspiring for all new couples (and older ones too!) I will definitely take the time to cherish my dear husband and remember your bank teller’s advice. To Krista and Mark – I wish you many more years of discovery and enchanting marital bliss – thank you for being role models of love for your girls and for what marriage should all be about. Much love to you both. xox

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